I just want to share something I’ve just read; something which

I find interesting and something that I can’t help but to agree:

“That man over there says women need to be helped into

carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best places

everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud

puddles, or gives me the best place! And ain’t I a woman?

Look at me! Look at my arm! I have ploughed, and planted,

and gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And ain’t

I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man –

when I could get it – and bear the lash as well! And ain’t I a

woman? I have born 13 children, and seen most of them sold

off to slavery, and when I cried out with my mother’s grief,

none but Jesus heard me! And ain’t I a woman?”

(Address by Sojourner Truth, 1851, quoted in Bartlett and

Kennedy, 1991:256)

I personally think males only give special treatments to those

females who act and look like the kind of females that males

have in mind.

You wear a skirt, you wear make up, you look hot; the males

want you in their bedroom; so they give you special treatment.

You wear slacks, you are stronger than the men; you turn them

off; they treat you like a man.

You act like a man, and the man will treat you like a man too,

because giving you special treatment will not provide them

with sexual pleasure. I think the men are very well-versed with

the felicific calculus.

Which is quite unfair to us ladies, in my opinion, because no

matter how we act like a male, there are still biological

differences between male and female. You don’t lose your

breasts and vagina and grow a penis overnight just because

you act like a male. Or, to be more direct like MacKinnon, the

f**kee does not turn into f**kor just because she behaves like

a f**kor. The biological differences remain.

On top of that, the harshness of life forces us to behave like a

man in order to survive.

But on the other hand, I can’t help but to think: what is our

nature if we were not educated to behave like a lady? Is it in

our nature to behave like a lady?

I still don’t have an answer for that question.